What Heartbreak Has Taught Me
1. Breathe. As simple and hard as that could be, breathe. If it is all that you can do, breathe. You are not a waste of space or a failure. You are essential and you are here so please, breathe. You are enough. You are loved and you deserve to be loved.
2. Blaming myself. The sad reality is that sometimes you can do everything right and things still will fail. It is something I had to learn the hard way. Constantly going through your mind trying to place what went wrong and think about what you could have done differently is torture. Please don’t do it. You loved the way you could and though to them it didn’t seem like enough, it was.
3. Cry and being open with close ones. It is true sometimes just talking about it helps close the wound. Now this scar, it is going to hurt when you visit it but know it is only but a scar. That means it has experienced the worst, but finally is at its prime time(it is healed). Being surrounded by loved ones and just letting the tears fall out of your eyes can feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulder. Remember point one, it is okay not to be okay. We are all humans after all. We are not expected to be this perfect emotional robot. So yes, go ahead and express your weakness in this temporarily moment. That will always be okay. It is apart of your healing and you are most certainly are allowed to be okay again.
4. Love is possible again. I know this is the last thing you want to hear after taking a chance on it, but hold on dear. There is someone out there wanting to love every inch of you and understand the deepest darkest part of your mind and loves you all the same. In the meantime, keep in mind that there is already a savior out there, Jesus Christ, who loves you like this but with infinite folds. You are loved through your mistakes, through your ups and downs, through every aspect, minutes, seconds, hours of your precious life. Even when you don’t feel like, it is there. Sometimes our feelings can rock us but you are never truly without love, beloved.
5. It is okay not to be okay. It takes time to open up and be yourself again and that is okay. Sometimes getting away from society and taking the time to mend is something needed, but please know that you are not alone in this. Take care of yourself in the best possible way you can and if that means sometimes only being able to muster eating a bowl of cereal for dinner then that’s fine. Heartbreak takes a toll on the mind and as cliche as this always sound, though true, you will be okay as time goes by.